A few months back my wife said “its going to be fun growing old with you”. I wonder what I have to do to maintain that thought process in the forefront of her head. With the eddies and currents of life its difficult to maintain. I was on the top of the mountain. How do I stay there relationally with her? What got me there in the first place?
Its time to start the climb again back up this mountain…. to rest in the comfort of honesty, sincerity, and understanding. How do I get there. I did it once before I can do it again.
I am thankful for a wife that sees and understands the Gospel/Law equation so well. This is not our problem… its tough to keep your Gospel “A” game on all the time…. but , I believe, this is the model and recipe for a healthy marriage. Gods law, without the cross in view, is a seductive way of pursuing and getting life. Sucking worth from the tree of knowledge of good and evil as opposed to getting “life” from Christ, the tree of life (Genesis). Scripture tells us we are free of the BURDENS of the law and Christ has come to set us free. The law is our guide, but Christ gives us life. The difference between living under the burden of the law and living under the freedom of Christ is similar to two people drinking from the same glass. One sees it as half empty and the other sees it as half full. One sees the unlimited mosaic of possibilites he gets to be part of and the other is preoccupied and self-absorbed with the limited three or four things he does not get to do. One sees color and the other sees black and white.
Its time to live in color and to live free.
There are many unhealthy marriages that live with each other completely under the law….. feeling self justified for being self righteous…. pursuing religion but not pursuing Christ. Living in fear of repeating the past. Believing that if you obey you are accepted. Not behaving in view of Gods Mercy where since you are accepted you obey.
Its time to start climbing the Gospel mountain again. Its going to be fun growing old together!