Have you ever seen the movie John Q? In the movie John Q’s young son falls down running to second base in a basball game and they find out he has a bad heart and needs a heart transplant. John Q had recently lost his job. His wife works at McDonalds. They have no insurance money and the hospital caters to only paying patients so they can only give John Q options of how his son can best survive until he dies rather than give him options as to how his son can find a heart and live. In desperation John Q takes over the hospital with a gun…. but the bullet was in his pocket. His intention was to take over the hospital until they found a heart …. or to take his own life and give his own heart to his son! A good story. Men love this story because of the bravery and morality of John Q.
In many ways we are all in love with the image of being a John Q. The idea of this kind of bravery and bravado and moral performance is attractive to many. We love it. We want to think we can be John Q.
On the other hand you have Kermit the frog. Kermit knows he is weak. Kermit knows his limitations and you can tell by the songs he sings he has a level of transparency, honesty, integrity…. Because he is honest and aware of this limitations you can see he is in touch with his inner frog and his frogly weaknesses! Perhaps this is why he is so attractive to Ms. Piggy! :-). Think about that one guys. Some people would call this awareness of limitations and the stories in the songs he sings … wisdom!
I lead some mens groups and me and my wife are also are in Marriage rebuilders at our Church. My personal experiences tell me that the Kermits of the world tend to do better than the people that are in love with the John Q moral performance imagery. People that are honest about themselves are the people that are growing. These people are in touch with the reality of their sin. The people in love with the John Q, manly performance imagery tend to be the same person at 18 as they are at 50!
Bravado (pride)…. especially male bravado … gets in the way of growth and change. Many men may grow in their careers but yet they are basically the same person at 50 as they were at 18. They are successful in career but are maybe just going through the motions in their marriage or relationships with people.
My thoughts are not fully formed on this at this point. I find it funny that Kermit, a sesame street character, represents reality in the point I am making here. The verse of scripture I am trying to bring out is:
2 Corinthians 12
9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
Really guys its ok to be Kermit the frog!!!! Honestly! Are you John Q or Kermit? Do you know your froggly weaknesses?
Anyhow, this BLOG topic was inspired by a conversation between me and my wife about 6 months ago. :-). She wants you to know that any correlation between the name Ms “Piggy” and her is completely accidental and not accurate . :-).